Hi, I’m Noelle Wittliff.
I’m a Mother of Two, Licensed Family Therapist, Trauma Resiliency Specialist, and Mindful Parenting Coach. I teach parents effective tools to reduce stress and overwhelm and strategies to raise resilient, secure, and confident kids. With over fifteen years of experience, I support families to learn, grow, and heal in powerful ways.
“Taking Noelle’s Mindful Parenting course was one of the biggest gifts I’ve given myself.”
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When children are not allowed to express their emotions, they`re not able to learn how to regulate them.
Holding space for feelings, while at times challenging for parents, is an important process in supporting our kids.
Through the process of co-regulating, we teach children how to eventually regulate and sooth their own upset feelings. This is a skill that develops over time and has lifelong benefits.
A mantra that I find helpful is: All Feelings Are Welcome!
📚 I came across this children`s book on a recent trip to Astoria - I am Quiet: A Story for the Introvert in All of Us.
📗 It`s a very sweet, affirming story about the rich imaginations of even the kids who tend to be labeled as quiet and shy. The book reminds us that answers, friendship, and strength are sometimes quiet.
📘 If you have a child who`s been labeled as shy, I think they`ll find this book to be quite validating!
Written by: Andie Powers
Illustrated by: Betsy Petersen
Happy Mother`s Day to all the moms and maternal figures who are breaking generational cycles to parent more mindfully and heartfully.
And sending deep compassion to those who have lost a mom or who have trauma related to having a mom or being a mom.
I wish you healing on your journey and the capacity to hold your pain with tenderness today.
🧰 Have you ever wondered which tools are most effective for your parenting toolbox?
In working with families for almost 20 years now, I`ve reflected on this question many times!
There are five tools that I think are most important, and I`ve created a free guidebook to walk you through each one.
Get instant access to Five Days to a More Mindful Family and begin practicing these tools to strengthen connection and create greater family harmony.
When you`ve finished the 5-day practice, please reach out to let me know how it went! (Link in bio.)
In honor of May 4th, I`m sharing some more Star Wars origami characters!
My son was inspired by a series of Origami Star Wars books we came across at the library last year and had so much fun making these little guys.
I love open-ended days where we can engage with our inspiration and creativity. This is the essence of mindfulness with kids!
I love this mindfulness card deck for teens and tweens, created by Gina Biegel, LMFT. It includes 50 cards that allow teens to strengthen practices of self-care, grounding, and mindfulness. It`s accessible for adults, too. 💕
I recommend keeping a mindfulness deck at the kitchen table and having each family member take a turn selecting a card to ponder. 🥰
Anger is always about unmet needs. When we, as parents and caregivers, feel frustrated or angry, it`s important to turn our attention inwards first, before directing our feelings outward.
When we tune in, we can listen to what our body is communicating to us. Once we`ve discovered our need in that moment, we can try to meet that need for ourselves, or make a request for it to be met by someone else.
Parenting is not about eliminating our feelings, it`s about finding skillful ways to express them.
Parenting our children at every age gives us the opportunity to simultaneously re-parent ourselves. If your child is 4, think about what you needed at 4 years old. If your child is 16, what did you need during your adolescence?
You then have the opportunity not only to offer that type of nurturing to your child at their present age, but you can offer it to yourself, too.
It`s never too late to heal the past and to give ourselves what we needed all along.
My re-parenting includes slowing down, allowing all feelings, and offering myself empathy and compassion. 💗
❄️ Mindful Art Mondays: Winter Penguins Craft
As a working mom who loves doing arts and crafts (but doesn`t always have time to do them from scratch) I appreciate kits that are fun to assemble without a lot of prep work required!
These cut-out penguins are a fun wintertime craft to make with kids on snowy or rainy indoor days. Pictured here are the penguins my kids made, each with its own personality and style. 🥰
Supplies:
Penguin kit from Paper Source
Glue
Scissors
Mindful Art Mondays: Chinese Lanterns
In honor of the Lantern (Yuan Xiao) Festival starting today, I`m sharing Mindful Art Monday a day early!
The Lantern Festival is a holiday celebrated in China and other Asian countries to remember deceased ancestors on the 15th day of the lunar calendar.
The Lantern Festival supports reconciliation, peace, and forgiveness. The lanterns themselves represent letting go of past selves, and the color red is a symbol of good fortune.
My kids made the lanterns pictured here from red and yellow construction paper. The directions are as follows:
1. Fold a piece of red construction paper in half lengthwise with the fold on the bottom closest to you.
2. Draw a line about an inch from the top horizontally across the paper.
3. Cut vertical lines starting at the bottom fold up to the top horizontal line about an inch across.
4. Unfold the paper. Keeping the cut lines vertical, wrap the paper around into a circular shape and glue or tape the top and bottom ends together.
5. Cut off a one-inch strip from the long side of a yellow piece of construction paper. Glue this along the bottom of your lantern.
6. Cut off a 1" wide strip from the short end of the yellow paper for the handle and glue or tape to the top of the lantern.
7. Cut 4" strips from the remaining yellow paper to attach to the bottom of the lantern. If you`d like, you can write some wishes for the New Year on the fringe.
Happy Lunar New Year!
When I make it a practice to connect with myself and my highest intention for the day BEFORE I get caught up in the news of the day, I feel sturdier and more grounded.
This calmer energy lasts throughout the day, and changes how I show up in all aspects of my life.
A simple practice that I like is to think of something that you feel grateful for before you get out of bed in the morning. As you bring that image to mind, savor how it feels to connect with your gratitude.
Take a few full breaths, set an intention, and then start your day when ready!
Parenting Support: Visual Reminders to Change Behaviors (ours not our kids`!)
If you’re working on changing an old parenting behavior (like yelling or rushing), place a few bracelets, rubber bands, or hair ties around one wrist.
Let these serve as a reminder of your intention to show up differently for your kids today. If you slip into an old pattern of raising your voice, for example, move one band to the other wrist.
This is a reminder to you that some repair needs to happen. Some relationship experts recommend a 5:1 ratio of positive interactions to negative ones. When repairing with your child, consider seeking out 5 opportunities to connect and engage with presence and kindness. Then move that band back to its original wrist.
The goal is to eventually get through a day without needing to move any bands over to the other wrist. Every time you see those colorful ties around your wrist, you’ll be reminded of your intention to show up differently.
These are consistent reminders that will help you stay focused and present. Eventually, you won’t need bands to remind you, as your intention will be integrated and intuitive. You’ll develop new habits of communicating and relating, that with practice and effort, will be the new normal. 💕
Mindful Art Mondays: Origami Fortune Cookies
In honor of Chinese New Year beginning today, I`m sharing Mindful Art Monday a day early! This is a very simple and fun craft to do with kids.
1. Draw a circle on a sheet of origami paper and cut it out.
2. Bend the top of the circle to touch the bottom of the circle, without folding the circle in half. Gently press the middle of the circle to make a small crease.
3. Fold the left and right side of the circle towards each other and use the other hand to press an indentation at the bottom point of the folded circle.
4. Place a dot of hot glue on the inside of one side of the folded edge, close to the small crease.
5. Write your wishes for the new year on strips of of paper and gently slide them into the folded cookies.
Happy Lunar New Year!
I love these words of wisdom from Pema Chödrön. I`m reminded of the importance of thoughtful consideration of others and mindful awareness of how our actions affect them.
"We don`t set out to save the world. We set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people`s hearts."
--Pema Chödrön
If you`re looking for simple ways to incorporate more mindfulness into your daily family life, Mindful Games Activity Cards by Susan Kaiser Greenland is a great place to start.
These cards strengthen the skills of attention, balance, and compassion. I keep these in the kitchen and we pull out 1-2 cards at mealtime to practice slowing down and coming into the present moment. 💗
A child`s secure relationship with their parent is protective, healing, and resilience building. Indeed, the most powerful mental health intervention known to mankind.
🌸 Mindful Art Mondays: Handmade Flower Paper
🌺 This is wonderful mindfulness art activity as it incorporates visual, kinesthetic, and tactile sensory learning. 🙌
🌼 There are many different ways to make handmade paper. Here, I`ll offer the method my kids learned in their farm camp (examples shown here).
💐 Supplies: colored construction paper, jars, water, flowers, paper towels, a screen or sieve
🌻 Tear up colored construction paper into tiny pieces and place the scraps from each color into separate jars. Add some water, screw on the lids, and shake. 🌟 Shaking the body releases stress and tension and is a great grounding exercise.
🌷 When the paper begins to break down, take out different colors and place them onto a screen or sieve. Press down with dry paper towels to flatten the paper and absorb excess moisture. Then add flowers to press into the paper as desired.
🪷 Place the paper in sunlight to dry. In about a day, you`ll have some really beautiful and interesting nature creations to enjoy!
🌟 Mindfulness Practice: Resourcing
Let`s talk about resourcing!
Resources, as used in trauma-resiliency and mindfulness work, refer to anything that brings us a sense of calm, peace, joy, safety, or internal sturdiness.
Animals are a wonderful resource as kids (and adults) can borrow qualities from favorite animals to remind them of their own internal bravery, strength, resilience, steadiness, confidence, or power.
In my office, I keep a bowl of these small animal figurines (pictured here). When a child that I`m working with identifies a quality that could help them to try something new or face some kind of challenge, they choose an animal that embodies the strength that they`re needing.
I invite them to take the animal with them, keep it their pocket, and when they`re in the new or challenging situation, they can draw the strength that they`ve identified from their animal resource.
I, myself, have been known to keep a saber-tooth tiger in my pocket from time to time when needing an extra boost of confidence or assertiveness. It really helps! 😉
🌟 A simple mindfulness practice that you might try this New Year`s Eve is to write down everything from this year that you`re ready to let go of.
🌟 This list can include habits or feeling states that no longer serve your highest good. Maybe you can set an intention to let go of stress, overwhelm, people-pleasing, over-committing, excessive screen time.
🌟 After writing this list, release it in some way. You can tear it into small pieces and throw it away, or if you have a fireplace, toss it into the fire. Connect to the feeling of LETTING GO.
🌟 Next, you can write a second list that includes everything that you`d like to call in for the New Year. What do you want more of in 2023?
🌟 More quality time with loved ones, slowing down, more movement, a renewed meditation or journaling practice? Let your imagination guide your intention setting.
🌟 New Year`s Eve is a wonderful time to reflect, let go, and set intentions for the upcoming year.
🎉 Happy New Year!
While researching happiness and joy for a talk that I gave earlier this year, I was heartened to learn that happiness can be cultivated through action. It`s not just a state that comes and goes, although for most of my life, it sure felt that way. Here are some practices to cultivate and strengthen a sense of happiness:
❤️ A daily gratitude practice - training the mind to notice and reflect on what you appreciate.
🧡 Being of service to others through small acts of kindness and support.
💛 Bringing to mind someone you love and whispering a thank you to them!
💚 Moving your body in a way that feels good to you - this could be gentle stretching, playing hide and seek with your kids, or taking a dance class.
💙 Savoring moments of contentment, wellness, or ease - when you notice something that feels good, take some time to savor it. Let your mind and body register the joy in the experience.
💜 A mindfulness practice! A daily mindfulness practice reduces feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression, and increases feelings of equanimity, joy, and a deeper connection to ourselves and others.
Wishing all those who celebrate Christmas a very Merry Christmas from my family to yours. I hope your holidays are peaceful and joyful, and that you enjoy some mindful connection with your loved ones this holiday season. 🎄❄️🏡
The origin of the word solstice means to stand still. It`s the "longest" night of the year, where we celebrate the return of the light and the first official day of winter.
My kids made wreaths (pictured here) at a gathering to celebrate the traditions of solstice.
We`ll spend some time in the forest today, standing still, taking a full breath in, and reflecting on this past year with gratitude.
I hope you have a moment of stillness today, too. 🌲🌤❄️
🎅 🎄 Mindful Art Mondays: Holiday decorations
🌟 One of our favorite things to do around this time of year is to make holiday decorations. I found this little set at Michael`s and it`s perfect for kids ages 5 and up. My tween enjoyed making them, too! Seasonal arts and crafts are a fun way to spend time together and to practice mindful creating and engaging. 💕
🎨 Supplies needed: felt cut-outs, glue, pipe cleaners, googly eyes, ribbon for hanging.
Mindfulness Practice: Grounding
I keep a dish of polished stones in my office for anyone who would like an additional source of grounding.
Observing the colors, shapes, and sizes, and then holding one in your hand to notice the texture, temperature, and weight are all effective ways to bring some grounding into the body and nervous system.
I often carry one of these stones in my pocket and just reach for it as needed throughout the day!
🌟 Mindful Parenting Support: When feeling triggered, sending yourself short, reassuring affirmations of safety will go a long way to calm and soothe your nervous system!
These are my go-to`s:
❤️ I`m here - a reminder to stay connected to myself in the present moment.
🧡 I`m safe - reminds me that even though I`m feeling triggered, I`m safe in my body.
💛 I`m loved - a reminder of my social support.
💚 I`ve got this - reminds me that even though it`s hard sometimes, we can do this!
🌟 Mindful Art Mondays: Fairy Houses 🧚
📚 My kids are fortunate to belong to a book club facilitated by award-winning children`s author Cindy Baldwin. She creates lovely activities to go along with monthly nature-themed books.
🧚🏠 Pictured here are two kid-created fairy houses with animals and mythical creatures inspired by a character from one of the bookclub selections: Silver Meadows Summer by @emma.otheguy.
🌲 I`m sharing this today as an example of how to expand content from stories into hands-on, mindful experiences using creativity in nature. Thank you, @cindybaldwinbooks for this beautiful lesson.
🎨 🍂 Supplies needed: wooden bird houses, moss, leaves, stones, pinecones, glue, mythical creature and animal figurines.
🌸 Mindful Parenting Support: It`s helpful not only to understand our triggers but to also identify what contributes to those moments in our families when things go well. This helps us understand the causes and conditions that allow us to show up as our best selves.
What helps you to feel grounded, patient, and easy-going with your partner or kids?
For me, it almost always has to do with prioritizing sleep, staying hydrated, and having a consistent meditation practice.
This kind of self-care is the scaffolding that enables me to be the calm and gentle mom that my kids need.
🌟 Once you`ve identified your sources of support, make it a priority to include them in your daily routines. You`ve got this! 🥰
🍁 In honor of Thanksgiving, here are a few family practices to strengthen appreciation and increase happiness...
📚 A gratitude journal: Each family member can write or draw what they`re grateful for in their own journals, or you can keep a notebook in the kitchen with an open invitation for any family member to add entries as they feel moved to do so.
🍛 A gratitude practice: Before dinner each night, take turns expressing something that each person is grateful for from their day. This trains the mind to look for what is good, and reflecting on those moments at the end of the day allows us to savor and remember them.
🫙 A gratitude jar: Throughout the year, write down people and things that you appreciate onto slips of paper. Fold them up and put them in a jar. On Thanksgiving, open up the jar and each family member can take turns reading from the slips of paper. It`s a fun way to reminisce and highlight experiences from throughout the year.
💕 I`m grateful for each of you. Thank you for following this page and for all that you do to make the world a kinder place.
If you’re a parent who wishes to have:
Less stress, tension, and overwhelm
Fewer conflicts and power struggles
More flexibility and cooperation in your family
A deeper connection with your kids
A greater sense of internal calm and sturdiness
Then, welcome! You’re in the right place.
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It starts with a simple intention, a desire for change, and a willingness to develop new strategies and ideas about how to care for ourselves and our children.
The first step toward meaningful change is creating a vision for your family and then reaching out for the right support to get you to where you want to be.
What is Mindful Parenting?
Mindful Parenting is about slowing down and bringing attention to the big and small moments in each day. Mindful Parenting refers to parenting consciously and intentionally, with compassionate awareness of our own feelings and needs, while also tuning in to the feelings and needs of our children. When we parent mindfully, we respond, rather than react. We find opportunities to engage with our children in ways that naturally encourage their flexibility and cooperation. We strengthen emotional safety within the family and foster secure and loving attachments.
Mindful Parenting is about parenting in the present moment, in the only place where we can affect change.
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